Soul Mate Myths

Our soul is our heart. It is full of radiance. Therefore, our soul mate is someone who reflects our heart.

A man's heart is feminine and the woman who is his soul mate reflects his soul. A woman's heart is masculine and the man who is her soul mate reflects her soul. Each one feels the presence of the other inside of them as the very core of who they are. There is a deep recognition of this truth.

The painful truth is that most people have never known this inner radiance. Instead, they cling to the many myths about the soul mate relationship that are simply not true. These false beliefs need to be understood. Here are just a few.
Myth One: Many people believe that they will find their soul simply by looking, wishing, hoping and dreaming.

They feel that somehow this person will come along and make them eternally happy. This is the most naive of all the soul mate myths.

Myth Two: Others tend to rely upon how much they are attracted to another person to determine if they are their soul mate or not. The truth is that our attractions are very deceiving. The myth is that we can trust our feelings of attraction, as if our feelings are a validation of the facts. Further, the attraction you may have for someone could actually be a fatal attraction without you even realizing it. You may think a person is your soul mate, but you could simply be sexually obsessed with them.

Myth Three: Why are so many of us looking for a soul mate when we don't have any capacity for true heart intimacy? Even if our soul mate actually does appear, we become so terrified of giving our heart to them that we run 100 miles in the other direction. The unconscious myth here seems to be that we can find our soul mate without surrendering our heart.

Myth Four: Another myth is that we will recognize our soul mate if we meet them. We fail to realize that if our soul mate reflects our soul, and we are unable to feel our own inner radiance -- don't really love ourself or know who we are -- then we will be unable to recognize him or her. In fact, you could know such a person for years without even recognizing that they are your soul mate. I know this to be true, because it happened to me.
So, how do you find your soul mate?

If we really do want to find our soul mate, then we must realize that we have to awaken to a greater capacity for surrendering our heart. By surrendering our heart, we will know the wound of love as well as the profound sense of intimacy that comes with it. Take the Soul Mate Test and check out The Soul Mate Discovery Group at the link below. Let me know what you think. It may be time to destroy your myths.

About The Author

(c) 2005-06 Randall Curtis

Randall Curtis is a professional astrologer and director of The Institute of Professional Astrology. He is he author of an outstanding text on relationships, "No One is a Mystery - How to Use the Planets to Understand Anybody." Please visit him at http://www.matchmakingheaven.com or email skysage@comcast.net

9 Irresistible Flirting Tips – How To Sizzle and Dazzle the Opposite Sex

You don't have to be a movie star look-alike to sizzle and dazzle the opposite sex. All you need is a genuine sweet looking smile plus a few irresistible flirting tips.

1. For women, we preen or groom ourselves subconsciously when we are attracted to someone – by smoothing down our hair or clothes, checking our lipstick, or straightening a tie. Combine your grooming gesture with a smile and a gaze. You can also toss your hair to one side – a combination 1-2 punch of preening and a flash of neck.

2. A genuine, friendly smile is you’re most powerful. Behavior experts agree that a smile makes you more attractive and approachable. Guys, if a woman lock eyes and smiles with you three or more times in an evening, you have been given an unmistakably clear signal that she's interested. Make your move, if you don't, somebody else will.

3. Gaze the eyes with the person you're flirting with for a full five to six seconds, smile and then drop your fix. Do this at least three times in a ten to fifteen-minute period. Your target needs to know you are flirting with him; making eye contact is a universal signal of openness.

4. One of the more successful flirting techniques a woman can employ is to expose her neck. A head tilt, the classic hair flip, or the over-the-shoulder glance attracts men’s attention, exposes your neck, and gives you the opportunity to lock eyes. The over-the-shoulder move is extra-effective because it's sexy and sends a signal to your target that they are worth a second look.

5. Members of both sexes are subconsciously attracted to red, moist lips because they signal youth, sex and fertility. Red also increases a man's heart rate. How to capitalize on it? Wearing a red lipstick gives women’s lips not only a youthful color but also a more obvious smile and whiter teeth. Using a super-shiny lip gloss makes your lips look moist and kissable. Men or women should lick their lips subtly (you don't want to look like you're trying out for a porno flick) or bite the lower lip – both are extremely effective flirting behaviors.

6. Men should stand tall with the shoulders pulled back and squared; women are biologically attracted to more dominant men. Feel free to take up some space.

7. For women, crossing and uncrossing their legs is a surefire flirting technique, especially if you're wearing high heels. A woman crossing her legs appears seductive to men and it makes them desire to see more. Slipping the heel out of your shoe and dangling it on your toes is another trick. The arch of a foot sends a sexual message and mimics a woman's curves, and makes a man's heart race.

8. Once you and your flirting target start talking, the next step is to intensify the attraction. How? Smile and maintain eye contact, focus all of your attention on what they say. No one is more attractive than someone who gives you an undivided attention. Employ the nod and head tilt techniques. Smiling and laughing are crucial at this point – it the quickly puts the other person at ease. Making low-level contact by brushing the shoulder or elbow is another effective flirting technique.

9. People mirror each other’s body language – gestures, voice volume, posture, etc when they are attracted. Very subtly mirror your flirting target's behavior – if she leans forward, lean forward; if he scratches his head, scratch your head. When you mirror someone's behavior, they'll begin to feel, think and believe as though the two of you are connected.
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About The Author

Joshua Goh is dating & relationship expert, prolific writer and avid internet marketer. Currently runs Cupidwave.com, which is blazingly becoming one of the highly sought-after online dating review site. He is also passionate about human peak performance, golf, fitness and travelling. For more information on up-to-date dating reviews and litle tips & tricks, please visit http://www.cupidwave.com.

What’s Preventing You Finding Your Mr. Right?

There may be many reasons why you haven’t found your perfect partner yet. Here’s one of the main reasons many of my clients haven’t found theirs, and how you can eliminate it as a problem from your life.
BTN Relationships

BTN? Better than nothing.

That may sound cruel, but you can spend months certainly and often years going out with men that, deep down, you know aren’t the one.

What you have in these relationships is partial compatibility. Sometimes you’ll meet someone who ticks most of the boxes on your checklist but not all of them. At this point you have a choice to make, do you move on immediately or not?

Most of us have at some point been in a relationship that was almost it. It’s easily possible to spend years trying to get a relationship to work when it isn’t really what you want. In itself that isn’t necessarily bad, we learn amazing things about ourselves in any relationship and we’re generally going to grow through the experience. However if your long term goal is to get married and set up home or to have kids then you might want to do a better job of protecting your time.
There is a saying within time management philosophy which states that ‘the great should never be at the mercy of the good.’

So how do you prevent yourself from getting stuck in a relationship with just the good? How do you ensure you don’t get stuck in BTNs over and over again, spending years of your life in relationships that aren’t going to last?

The 3 Month Rule

One of my dating clients Sheila, who’s been very successful recently, told me of a strategy she’s developed that she calls the three month rule. Sheila is convinced that this particular rule has already saved her a couple of years in her pursuit of Mr. Right. She was good enough to give me her permission to share it with you, so here it is.

It’s very easy to understand in theory: If whoever you’re seeing isn’t lighting your lights after three months together then you move on. The things you want to be taking into account include the following: Is this person you’re dating making enough time for you? Do you feel truly loved by them? Do you feel like they are one of your best friends? Do you feel like you can really trust your date? Do you still fancy the pants off them? Hopefully you get the general gist of where these questions are going.

Sheila’s approach, which I think is brilliant, is to give it a maximum of three months to decide. This allows the relationship time to evolve and may allow you to work out some of the places where you initially feared there would be some level of conflict.

Personally I’ve always like three as a number, there’s a beginning, a middle and then the conclusion. After three months it should be possible for you to make an informed decision about whether your potential Mr. Right is actually right for you.

Your understanding of this all hinges on whether you have a clear idea of what makes a partner perfect for you. If you aren’t clear on that then it makes it extremely difficult to leave. And remember, you’ll be leaving people before you’ve argued the relationship to death and it often feels much harder as you still love them.
The upside in my experience both personally and professionally is that in the long run you get to keep someone who still feels like a friend even if you’re not going to be lovers.

Want to know the secret to finding your Mr. Right? Visit www.HowToFindMrRight.com and sign up to the free e-course now.

About The Author

Michael Myerscough is a 16 year veteran of counselling and coaching people to have great relationships. Copyright 2006 The Relationship Gym. All Rights Reserved. May be freely copied and distributed as long as you include the following information: "By Michael Myerscough, professional speaker and relationship success coach. Michael has lots of great tips, tools and articles on his website that you can use. Visit him now at http://www.therelationshipgym.com and get access to 22 ways to Find Your Life Long Partner or Improve Your Current Relationship”

How To Attract New, Beautiful Women (No Bar Scene Here)

Condense guide to attracting women.
I'm compiled a quick guide on how to get girls. This might be a bit unconventional and DOES goes gainst social norms, but hey, they never said you can't break rules! Anyways, this is a really condense guide. Hope it helps out!

How, first off, this guide provides some basic material if you're WILLING TO DO IT. The game, the seduction process, isn't done in the internet, it is done outside. In the real world so to speak. Its ok, females don't bite, and you won't get hurt (unless you're trying to seduce a woman in front of her husband or boyfriend!). Your ego might be shatter a bit, but who cares? Its a great learning process, a fascinating game to me.

So, the basic method how to pick up chicks follow: Find, Meet, Attract, Close.
Four steps! So first thing first.

Find:

You have to find them. Now, if you're attending school, do so. The best things to do it is during the morning time, when those groupies hang around. Other things includes lunch time, at the cafe and at the stores where they buy food. Also after school when they hang out in groupies. And, of course, you can pick up chicks in class.

For the more mature people, I would avoid word relationships like a plague ... it isn't worth it, considering there are so many places for you to meet and attract women.
Other places to pick up chicks: library, cafe, bar, mall and even the park in a warm, summer evening.

Ok, cool. How its time for the Meet.

Meet:

Say hello. No stupid pick up lines. NONE AT ALL! Ya hear? Good. Because pick up lines are lame, cute at best. The woman will tolerate it but you'll come off as a generic guy hitting on her inside of someone who is cool, relax and confident. Ask basic questions, such as how you're doing, introduce yourself. Exchange names and shake hands. Ok, you meet her. Now you need to attract!

Attract:

You want to be attractive person. Convey your personality -- are you funny, deep, intellectual, adventurous? This is done through story telling, believe it or not. Just don't reveal about yourself too soon ...

Speak in a clear tone, project your voice, but don't be too loud or too quiet. Watch out for your body lanuage -- are your shoulders close apart, or are they down and relaxed? Are you sitting upright or are you slouching, as ought you're having a heart to heart conversation with an old friend of ours?

Most importantly, TOUCH HER in a friendly, non-threatening way. It shows you're a sexual being, which means you're boyfriend material. Touch her, ok? This will help prevent you falling into the dreaded 'friend zone'. You should progressive from hand, elbow, her back, her hair, and then on her knee and waist. Depends on the situation, you have to adjust. Don't just go for the knees at the beginning or else you might come off as needy.


Close

The Close. Close is getting further contact with her. Phone number is the best, go for email if she persisent or something. Set up a 'meet up' right then. Tell her you have free time next Thursday and that it would be nice to 'meet up and have a quick bite' (no date ...)

Ok, pretty much sums it up for courtmanship. It isn't the most complex thing in the world, but the most important thing is that you have to actually ... *gasp* go outside and do the approach. Thats because of how our society is structured -- the men have to do the approach, whereas the women are the one who are receptive to the seduction process.
You can visit my site at www.attractherfast.tk.

About The Author

Ken Underwoods is a attractionist who spent 2.5 years traveling around the country picking up women of all ages and race. He now spends his time well rest at home.